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We need not walk alone.”

The mission of The Compassionate Friends is to assist families toward the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child of any age and to provide information to help others be supportive.

 
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A Website for Grief Help

When a child dies, at any age, the family suffers intense pain and may feel hopeless and isolated. The Compassionate Friends provides highly personal comfort, hope, and support to every family experiencing the death of a son or a daughter, a brother or a sister, or a grandchild, and helps others better assist the grieving.


OPENING MY HEART: WHAT GOOD IS TCF? DOES IT REALLY HELP?


WORKING TO FULFILL OUR HOPE: NO REGRETS, NO DESPAIR”


WHY WE ATTEND: Hunger for help from hopelessness, lost feelings, and despair.


SOME THINGS WE RECEIVE

 

(1) Outpouring of support
(2) Remarkable compassion and encouragement
(3) Demonstration of the abiding power of hope.


WHAT WE LOOK FOR IN OTHER BEREAVED PARENTS

 

(1) Those willing to encounter others’ sense of bewilderment and to continue to be there in order to help rebuild lives that have been crushed by loss.


(2) Those willing to press on in spite of the personal trauma of their own loss or losses. Those with ideals, integrity, and the vision which embodies hope and is dedicated to an ideal still in the future.


(3) Those who are compassionate and great enough to rise above their own pain and grief in order to help and inspire others, yet humble enough to really listen and to be inspired by others.


(4) Those willing to embrace each other as models of persistence, faith, dignity, and passion to our cause of promoting concern, and ongoing support and caring for others. (5) Those willing to accept the challenge that is worthy of inspiring others and dedicating ourselves to building a chapter that is working to fulfill the hope that others see in us.


After more than 15 years…….


STILL


WORKING TO FULFILL OUR HOPE: "NO REGRETS, NO DESPAIR"


By Faye McCord, TCF/ Jackson, MS - Written in thanks and dedication to all bereaved parents who reach out in support and encouragement to others, and especially to the Jackson MS Chapter, and in loving memory of my son, Lane McCord (1/26/65 - 9/13/98)

Observations on Long-Term Grief

Does our grief seem remote after several years have passed? The crisis is over; the dramatic unbelievable event of our child's death may seem to lie dormant some of the time.....like a sleeping serpent still ready to strike at a moment's notice. But the serpent when confronted will strike because we are always vulnerable to it's attack. The attack may come in different forms; an unexpected phone call with bad news; a chance encounter with an old friend who may ask about our child; perhaps even an invitation to a "happy" event. Most of the time we are unprepared for the serpent's attack and we may feel helpless to endure it's poisonous venom. And sometimes, especially after several years of attacks from the serpent, we may have tried to build up an immunity to its attack - a wall we may try to hide behind.

We have been bitten so many times, we may grow resistant to grief's venomous bite. We may need an antidote. What could possibly help? What could the "grief antidote" be? Could it be a fresh immunization; a booster shot of compassionate friends meetings, possibly more grief work? After all, we will live with this grief serpent the rest of our lives. I know for me, just being with my compassionate friends who understand me and are here to help me is one antidote I use to help combat the poisonous venom of grief. I need you! We need each other! Let us be here to help immunize the effects of poisonous grief with our understanding and our compassion.


Lane’s mom    Faye McCord, TCF/Jackson, MS

 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             

Elisabeth Kubler Ross (counselor on grief)    

Various Articles and Books on Grief

 

TCF, Jackson, MS Chapter

 

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